January 26, 2019

The wisdom of Ferris Bueller

I know I shouldn't admit this, but a few weeks ago I was caught speeding on the school run. I was doing 36 in a 30 and to be honest I didn't realise how much difference 6mph made in the grand scheme of things, but it does.


I had to go on one of those speed awareness courses this week and I was so surprised about what I learnt there, I am now much more mindful of the way I drive.


And it got me thinking - I was speeding because I was late.I was late because I'm so busy. I seem to be rushing here there and everywhere all the time which means I don't get a chance to stop and smell the roses!


As Ferris says, we all seem to be hurrying through life, missing all the great stuff around us.


I feel as though my life is passing me by at a rate of knots, and that I am in a constant state of getting this thing done, so I can get the next thing done. Am I enjoying the moment? The honest answer is no, not as often as I ought to be or would like to.

So next week, guess what? I am taking a day off – yes – a whooole day for little old me to do as I please. I have booked a hot stone massage for the morning and then I am meeting a friend for lunch and have 3 hours to spend with her in the afternoon doing as I please and enjoying my life.

Please don’t get me wrong! I’m not saying I don’t enjoy my life – but I know for sure that I am not ‘in the moment’ anywhere near as often as I should be. I love what I do, I love my family and friends, I have lots of amazing people and things in my life and it only really just occurred to me that I’m simply not mindful enough when I’m with them.

I wonder if you can relate?


Do you feel as though you're whizzing through life, wishing it away because you feel as though you'll only be properly happy when you meet someone to share it with? We all have that sort of elusive future self, a self where everything has miraculously fallen into place, where we will be deliriously happy and content – and we spend the life leading up to that in hopeful anticipation.


I’m not for one minute suggesting you won’t be deliriously happy in the future when you meet The One, but I am suggesting you can be deliriously happy now too, with everything you have already!



Because life is for living now isn't it? And although that sounds obvious, sometimes we need reminding of it. Look around at everything you have to be grateful for now, and the positive vibes you send out into the world with come back to you tenfold. In fact, I reckon you might find your soulmate even sooner if you are grateful for all the amazing things you have in your life now.


Trust me - it works.


And if you want to know more about how being happy and grateful in the now will help you in your quest for love, feel free to get in touch! You can either send me an email or apply for a 30 minute free call with me to talk things through 😊


So, take it easy, and keep sending out those positive vibes!


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Rachael Blackmore

Rachael Blackmore is a qualified counsellor and relationship therapist. She focuses on helping you explore yourself and your patterns of behavior in order to find successful, committed relationship with a partner who deserves you! She provides support for men and women searching for The One and wondering why they haven't found them yet.

Rachael believes in the power of relationship: she will build a relationship with you where trust and acceptance facilitate open communication about the things that are troubling you. She is  passionate about her work and committed to helping you explore your difficult feelings and experiences to find a way to feel better and experience life differently. With a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, Rachael works as an integrative  therapist. This means she draws on the Person-Centred approach and  Psychodynamic theory to work collaboratively with you to improve your mental  and emotional well-being.

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